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New Weight Loss Pill Originally For Diabetes Superior to Orlistat

Posted by Dreamer On October - 26 - 2009 Comments
The Lancet this week showed a new study which found the diabetes drug liraglutide helped obese individuals shed more weight than with the popular diet pill orlistat (Xenical, Alli).
According to Reuters Health, Dr. Arne Astrup from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark said that the findings that liraglutide was better than orlistat was, “unexpected.”
Until now, liraglutide has only been tested for its blood sugar-lowering abilities in people with type 2 diabetes. “This is the first state of the art trial to test its weight loss properties” in obese adults without diabetes, Astrup said.
The biggest findings with liraglutide, Astrup said, were the “clear-cut” dose-response relationship with weight loss (the higher the dose, the greater the weight loss), “the nice reduction in blood pressure, and the “cure” of patients with “pre-diabetes” – that is, poor blood sugar control not yet bad enough to qualify as diabetes.
In the study, 564 obese adults without diabetes were randomly assigned to receive liraglutide at one of four doses (1.2, 1.8, 2.4, or 3.0 milligrams), placebo, or orlistat (120 milligrams). Liraglutide and placebo were given once daily as an injection, while orlistat was given three times a day in pill form.
All participants in the study increased their physical activity throughout the trial and followed a calorie-restricted diet, which contained approximately 500 calories less than they needed each day.
People who took liraglutide lost significantly more weight than people who took placebo or orlistat, Astrup and colleagues found. Liraglutide contains a satiety hormone that helps curb appetite.
Average weight loss with the lowest liraglutide dose (1.2 mg) was 4.8 kilograms (10.6 pounds); with 1.8 mg liraglutide, subjects lost an average of 5.5 kg (12.1 pounds); with 2.4 and 3.0 mg liraglutide, subjects lost an average of 6.3 kg (13.9 pounds) and 7.2 kg (15.8 pounds), respectively.
This compares with an average weight loss of only 2.8 kg (6.2 pounds) with placebo and 4.1 kg (9 pounds) with orlistat.
Moreover, 76 percent of subjects taking the highest dose of liraglutide lost more than 5 percent of their body weight compared with only 30 percent on placebo and 44 percent on orlistat.
Liraglutide also lowered blood pressure at all doses.
At the start of the study, about a third of subjects in each group were considered “pre-diabetic.” At the higher doses, liraglutide cut the number of pre-diabetics significantly — by 84 to 96 percent.
Nausea and vomiting were reported more often with liraglutide than with placebo, but side effects were usually transient and seldom led to discontinuation of treatment.
Astrup, who is a member of the Liraglutide Obesity Advisory Board of Novo Nordisk, the company developing the drug, noted that “liraglutide has to pass phase III trials before it can reach the market in the coming years. However, the drug is available for the treatment of type 2 diabetes in Europe.”
Dr. George A. Bray, from Louisiana State University, Baton Rouge, comments in a related editorial: “Whether long-term use of an injectable drug is palatable as a treatment for obesity is yet to be established.”
xenicalThe Lancet this week showed a new study which found the diabetes drug liraglutide helped obese individuals shed more weight than with the popular diet pill orlistat (Xenical, Alli).
According to Reuters Health, Dr. Arne Astrup from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark said that the findings that liraglutide was better than orlistat was, “unexpected.”
Until now, liraglutide has only been tested for its blood sugar-lowering abilities in people with type 2 diabetes. “This is the first state of the art trial to test its weight loss properties” in obese adults without diabetes, Astrup said.
The biggest findings with liraglutide, Astrup said, were the “clear-cut” dose-response relationship with weight loss (the higher the dose, the greater the weight loss), “the nice reduction in blood pressure, and the “cure” of patients with “pre-diabetes” – that is, poor blood sugar control not yet bad enough to qualify as diabetes.
In the study, 564 obese adults without diabetes were randomly assigned to receive liraglutide at one of four doses (1.2, 1.8, 2.4, or 3.0 milligrams), placebo, or orlistat (120 milligrams). Liraglutide and placebo were given once daily as an injection, while orlistat was given three times a day in pill form.
All participants in the study increased their physical activity throughout the trial and followed a calorie-restricted diet, which contained approximately 500 calories less than they needed each day.
People who took liraglutide lost significantly more weight than people who took placebo or orlistat, Astrup and colleagues found. Liraglutide contains a satiety hormone that helps curb appetite.
Average weight loss with the lowest liraglutide dose (1.2 mg) was 4.8 kilograms (10.6 pounds); with 1.8 mg liraglutide, subjects lost an average of 5.5 kg (12.1 pounds); with 2.4 and 3.0 mg liraglutide, subjects lost an average of 6.3 kg (13.9 pounds) and 7.2 kg (15.8 pounds), respectively.
This compares with an average weight loss of only 2.8 kg (6.2 pounds) with placebo and 4.1 kg (9 pounds) with orlistat.


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Moreover, 76 percent of subjects taking the highest dose of liraglutide lost more than 5 percent of their body weight compared with only 30 percent on placebo and 44 percent on orlistat.
Liraglutide also lowered blood pressure at all doses.
At the start of the study, about a third of subjects in each group were considered “pre-diabetic.” At the higher doses, liraglutide cut the number of pre-diabetics significantly — by 84 to 96 percent.
Nausea and vomiting were reported more often with liraglutide than with placebo, but side effects were usually transient and seldom led to discontinuation of treatment.
Astrup, who is a member of the Liraglutide Obesity Advisory Board of Novo Nordisk, the company developing the drug, noted that “liraglutide has to pass phase III trials before it can reach the market in the coming years. However, the drug is available for the treatment of type 2 diabetes in Europe.”
Dr. George A. Bray, from Louisiana State University, Baton Rouge, comments in a related editorial: “Whether long-term use of an injectable drug is palatable as a treatment for obesity is yet to be established.”

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Pro-Anorexia Websites Under Attack as Psychiatrists Call For Action

Posted by Dreamer On October - 26 - 2009 Comments
Back in September at the start of London’s Fashion Week debate over ultra-thin models was reignited. Psychiatrists have called on the British government to act over the soaring numbers of “Pro-Ana,” or Pro-Anorexia, & “Pro-Mia,” or Pro-Bulimia websites.
The Royal College of Psychiatrists, site many teens encouraged by social networking sites like Facebook and “Thinspiration” websites as causes for the explosion of pro-ana and pro-mia thinspiration sites. Teen anorexics and eating disorder students are looking online to get tips on how to starve and purge themselves or hide extreme weight loss, says the Royal College of Psychiatrists.
“(These) websites normalize illness,” said Professor Ulrike Schmidt, chair of the college’s eating disorder’s section.
“In much the same way, the catwalks of international fashion events such as London Fashion Week can act as a showcase for underweight women.”
Right now the major force behind the move to shut down pro-ana and pro-mia thinspiration websites is mostly held in the United Kingdom.
London’s Fashion Week organizers have refused to rule out using waif-like models on the catwalk. This doesn’t seem to come as much of a surprise considering the top designers have shown the need to only use skinny models. The case for this can be easily seen by Ralph Lauren’s latest ad campaign / Photoshop PR disaster, and German designer Karl Lagerfeld vehemently defend the need for underweight models.
More than 1.6 million people in Britain suffer from eating disorders, nearly 90 percent of them are teen girls.
The action which the psychiatrists are hoping to achieve is for the British government to attack these thinspiration, pro-anorexia, pro-bulimia, pro-mia, and pro-ana websites promoting teen eating disorders. These Pro-Ana sites would be safeguarded for children through the UK’s Council for Childhood Internet Safety (UKCCIS).
1 in 10 girls look at pro-eating disorder websites repeatedly, taking inspiration from celebrities like Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton. Critics say many Thinspiration pro-ana and pro-mia sites use images and message boards to encourage severe weight loss.
Beat, a charity for people struggling with eating disorders said taking steps to make these sites illegal is not the answer, but steering the teens to recovery sites is the key. Already, Beat has teamed up with AOL with a new filtered search, anytime someone searches “Pro-ana”, “Pro-Mia”, “Thinspiration” or “Pro-anorexia”, “Pro-Bulimia”, then beat’s site will be listed first.
The UKCCIS said it is working hard to ensure that vulnerable teens are directed to places where they can get help when they are trying to access the Pro-eating disorder sites.
London_Fashion_Week_Skinny_ModelBack in September at the start of London’s Fashion Week debate over ultra-thin models was reignited. Psychiatrists have called on the British government to act over the soaring numbers of “Pro-Ana,” or Pro-Anorexia, & “Pro-Mia,” or Pro-Bulimia websites.
The Royal College of Psychiatrists, site many teens encouraged by social networking sites like Facebook and “Thinspiration” websites as causes for the explosion of pro-ana and pro-mia thinspiration sites. Teen anorexics and eating disorder students are looking online to get tips on how to starve and purge themselves or hide extreme weight loss, says the Royal College of Psychiatrists.

Threat Of Beer Bellies And Man Boobs Scaring Men Into Moderation

Posted by Dreamer On October - 22 - 2009 Comments

Concerns about health and looks are driving thousands to cut back on booze

Men are worried that drinking too much alcohol will give them a beer belly or man boobs according to a new survey for the Know Your Limits campaign published today.

Released during Men’s Health Week, the statistics show that watching the waistline is no longer only the preserve of women, with more than one in three men (37%) claiming they would reduce their drinking to cut down on the number of calories they consume. Only money-saving (44%) is a bigger incentive.
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The YouGov survey of almost 1,000 male drinkers over 18 in England revealed:

- One in six men (17%) are worried their drinking will lead to man boobs
- One in four (27%) are worried about getting a beer belly
- More than one in eight (13%) think their boozing is affecting their appearance
- Nearly one in ten (9%) worry that excessive drinking is affecting their sexual performance

The NHS recommends men do not regularly drink more than 3-4 units a day – equivalent to less than two pints of normal strength beer. According to the Office of National Statistics, an estimated 6.3 million men in England regularly drink above these limits*.

The YouGov survey revealed more than one in three men (36%) are worried booze is risking their long-term health, and more than one in five (22%) already feel it is affecting their general health and wellbeing.

But awareness of the specific health risks is generally worse among men than women. While most men (73%) were aware of the increased risk of liver disease associated with drinking above the recommended limits, 83% didn’t know about the link with mouth cancer, 84% were equally unaware of the risk of throat cancer, and two-thirds (66%) were blind to the increased risk of stroke.

Encouragingly, when told about these risks, more than a quarter (28%) said it made them keener to cut down.

Public Health Minister, Gillian Merron said:

“Our survey shows that more and more men are worried about alcohol ruining their looks. It is encouraging that they are also thinking about their health. Men who drink too much are at risk of conditions such as liver disease and stroke, as well as getting out of shape.


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“Unfortunately, the longer-term effect drinking too much can have on your health is harder to spot until it’s too late.

“Our Know Your Limits campaign arms people with the facts about how many units are in their favourite drinks, to help them keep a check on how much they drink each day.”

Dr Ian Banks, President of the Men’s Health Forum, is backing the Government’s Know Your Limits campaign.

He said: “It’s clear men are more concerned about the impact of their drinking on their bodies than we might imagine. Many of us only begin to see the visual evidence of our drinking habits as we get older and start to carry excess baggage, but excessive drinking can also take its toll beneath the skin.

“Most of us enjoy a drink from time to time, and that’s fine. But more men ought to be aware that drinking a couple of pints of beer or sharing a bottle of wine most days of the week can push them over the recommended limits, increasing their risk of liver disease, cancer, heart disease and stroke.”

Chris Sorek, Chief Executive of the DrinkAware Trust said: “Men are clearly worried about how alcohol affects their looks so Men’s Health Week is an ideal opportunity to get back into shape and start calculating alcohol calories on Drinkaware’s website.

“Whether it’s drinking with friends in the pub or relaxing at home, it’s crucial men keep track of units to avoid their looks deteriorating and serious health problems including liver and heart disease, cancer, and reduced fertility. Sticking to the recommended daily unit guidelines, taking 48 hours off after a heavy session and doing regular exercise will also help men keep the beer belly – and major illnesses – at bay.”

In 2007/08, there were more than 863,000 alcohol-related hospital admissions, an increase of 69% since 2002/03. Of these, 62% were for men.

Fewer than a third of men (31%) in the YouGov survey reported keeping track of their units. But a drinks calculator at http://www.nhs.uk/units does the maths for you, helping drinkers stick within their limits.

Love is a Journey an Amazing Adventure Filled With Passion

Posted by Dreamer On October - 21 - 2009 Comments

I really haven’t put to many letters I receive on here, many times their  personal. However, this one was really cool. I won’t go into the whole story but this girl was crushed! I was stoked reading this because you felt the excitement and fire back in her life. I never thought I would give so much advice on relationships, yet its been really cool. I appreciate the trust for asking me, and it’s awesome sharing what I know to be true, and also even with all that knowledge, love makes you do stupid things when you know you shouldn’t. However, if you are in a situation and you’ve made mistakes, smile, all you did was learn and grow stronger. I’ve had amazing people in my life, and I’ve made plenty of mistakes, all it did was add to my overflowing mojo! Today, expect more, because I truly believe your emotions are a powerful guiding tool for you. Lay it all out there, sure you may get hurt, but the sting fades and the next one lucky enough in your life, won’t ever have to wonder what they mean to you, because you show them daily!

After two years of what seemed to be a “forever” relationship, my lover decided he no longer wanted to be a part of “us”. This is the guy who I was going to build a life with and who dreamt of the future with me. We both uttered the words “forever”, “you make me happier than I’ve ever been”, “love” and “through good and bad” many times over and that is truly what I felt in my heart. However one day he decided he was no longer happy and wanted out of the relationship. As you can imagine, I was absolutely shocked, devastated and left with a broken heart I’ve never experienced before. I truly didn’t know what to do…

A couple weeks later, after much heartache and confusion I stumbled across your website and got to meet you at the event. I was willing to try anything and I am sure glad I did! I never thought the day would come but after only 3 months of following your advice, my lover came running back into my arms…almost literally! It really took me by surprise and I still can’t believe it. We are now on the up and up and I am sure our relationship is going to be MUCH stronger than before knowing what I know now. Thank you so much for helping me through what I thought to be one of the most difficult times in my life. I’ll continue to read your emails and learn from them. Thanks for offering such necessary advice!

Sincerely,
Amy
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Body Image Illusion Ends Now Embrace a New Dream

Posted by Dreamer On October - 20 - 2009 Comments

You can rest assured, that those who have hurt you had absolutely no idea of what they were doing and what was really going on.

It never occurred to them that you’d become even more magnificent.

That they’d be invoking your sympathy, adding to your compassion, and increasing your “sparkles.”

And it will still be eons before they can grasp that you actually welcomed them into your life and played their little games for some of these very reasons

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Australia to Start Taxing Fat Kids and Families

Posted by Dreamer On October - 19 - 2009 Comments

Mark Daniel a Professor and Chairman for UniSA Research for Social Epidemiology, has been awarded a $290,000 National Health and Medical Research Council grant. Professor Daniel’s will study where you live, such as your proximity to junk food and healthy food outlets, urban planning, and green spaces, and study the affects on your health and diet.

The study of fat people seems to be a lucrative field these days, SA Health has also awarded the Professor $265,000 over the next three years for his work. The Fat study will include the use of extensive research and data gathered through the North West Adelaide Health Study over the past decade.
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Professor Daniel will examine how people’s habitats and living situations affect their chances of developing metabolic syndrome, a cluster of high-risk conditions such as hypertension and fat gain.

Professor Daniel’s goal and planned outcome for the well funded research is to influence policy changes on taxation, urban planning and public transport.

“You can tax the fast-food companies and reduce the tax on grocers or places that are selling healthful food,” he said.

“We might be able to promote fewer cul de sac developments and more grid sections which encourage physical activity. We might be able to enact some bylaws against fast-food restaurants opening up in new residential locations. We want to see more green space, more connectivity of streets,” Professor Daniel said.
The new research being conducted by Professor Daniel has gained support from government activist leaders. The Fat study has some interesting issues. Professor Daniel, a Canadian moved to Australia due to their extensive Fat research and funding opportunities. Over a half a million dollars is being spent for a study whose sole objective is to tax fat people, and use government legislation to control a person’s free will. As leaders of this movement have been quoted.

“Some people might say that’s taking it too far, but the fundamental premise of health promotion is voluntary change and if people can’t change voluntarily you legislate,” he said.
Prime Minister Kevin Rudd’s Preventative Health Taskforce has recommended tax reforms to make healthy options easier, and unhealthy options harder.

Taskforce member and UniSA’s Foundation Chair in Health Economics Professor Leonie Segal said their recommendations look at individual food items rather than store type.
She said the theory of changing the taxation system to “modify people’s decisions” was quite simple. “People do respond to price signals and once it’s set up it can roll out reasonably simply,” she said.
The research being conducted from this study should also take into account the missing variable, they seem to overlook. A Person’s right and free-will. They contend that forcing taxes and legislation on fat people will force a change, and create a positive new healthy lifestyle. However, without extensive research I can simply look in our history books and see a trend dating back thousands of years, and all over the world, which will show failure. People’s belief systems, and personal freedoms and can not be controlled, they will only be strengthened and resolved for the sole purpose of defiance.
Prohibition, alcohol consumption was dangerous to society and their health. What was the outcome? Smoking is dangerous to the individual and society, more and more laws are passed and tightened every day, what has been the outcome? The idea in America of a “sin tax”, what will become the outcome?
Look throughout history, honestly any situation weather it be health, moral, or religious and here is your research. You can not force an individuals belief systems, by taxation, laws, or force. The human-spirit is not a controlled variable or scientific study.

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German Designer Karl Lagerfeld Says Skinny Models Just Look Better

Posted by Dreamer On October - 12 - 2009 Comments

Karl Lagerfeld says only ‘fat mummies’ object to thin models. German designer claims objections to ’size-zero’ models are driven by overweight women.

The Iconic German fashion designer said: “These are fat mummies sitting with their bags of crisps in front of the television, saying that thin models are ugly,” said Lagerfeld in an interview with the magazine Focus. The designer, who lost a lot of weight himself when he went on a strict low-carbohydrate diet several years ago, added that the world of fashion was all to do “with dreams and illusions, and no one wants to see round women”.

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Karl Lagerfeld, the eccentric German fashion tsar, has waded into the debate about size-zero models by saying that people want to look at “skinny models” and classing those who complain as “fat mummies”.

Lagerfeld, 71, was reacting to the magazine Brigitte’s announcement last week that it will in future use “ordinary, realistic” women rather than professional models in its photo shoots. He said the decision by Germany’s most popular women’s magazine was “absurd” and driven by overweight women who did not like to be reminded of their weight issues.

At a time when the fashion world is starting to hit back at the claims that it encourages anorexia, the Hamburg fashion designer John Ribbe, a regular participant in the Paris fashion show, said the row over underweight models had become hysterical.

“It’s just as much a cliché as saying that all models take drugs and get drunk at sex orgies,” he said.

“Ninety per cent of them are quite normal, properly proportioned girls with less fat and more muscles, who also eat pizzas and burgers.”

Brigitte’s editor, Andreas Lebert, said that after years of having to “fatten up” pictures of underweight models with Photoshop, the magazine would produce its first edition with non-professional models on 2 January. “We will show women who have their own identity, the 18-year-old A-level student, the company chairwoman, the musician, the footballer,” he said.

The decision follows a recent appeal by British Vogue editor Alexandra Shulman to major fashion houses to end the “size-zero” culture, and a scandal over a Ralph Lauren advertising campaign in which a model had been thinned down using computer graphics.

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Ralph Lauren Body Image Illusion the Future Anorexic Cover Model

Posted by Dreamer On October - 12 - 2009 Comments

Ralph Lauren was in the wrong, and they know they were wrong, because they got caught and went to far.

Ralph_Lauren_Anorexic_Cover_ModelThe best part about this whole situation is Ralph Lauren’s impossibly skinny model on the cover of their new ads, is the greatest fashion advertising debauchery in a long time. The advertisement shows a digitally altered image of model Filippa Hamilton, with her waist made to appear so small it is actually narrower than her own head.

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Way to Go Miley Cyrus!

Posted by Dreamer On October - 12 - 2009 Comments

Today, we are consumed with celebrities and their lives. The concept of living dreams through others is absolutely ridiculous. Many people are unhappy with their own lives that they see celebrities as spoiled, un-deserving and with no problems. Many people want to see them fail or get hurt, because somehow unconsciously it makes them happy. My friend filled me in on some of the latest gossip, and said Miley deleted her Twitter account and sent this video.

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They new I’d be pumped by this. Flat out, no other words but WAY TO GO! Here is a young teenage girl, who wants to be a teenage girl, be herself, and she is. Tabloids and media have attacked her, turned any little thing they can find and make her out to be something she isn’t in order to sell magazines. She is honest, sincere, and a regular teen girl who has the “RIGHT” to be a happy, fun-loving girl.

I don’t get into any of the junk said because it’s usually all manufactured and most importantly is judging and condemning someone they do not even know. All the junk about Miley has been sad, starting with a beautifully artistic and tasteful photo shoot a while back.

I love this little improv video Miley did, it’s un-rehearsed and it’s just Miley being herself. No spokesperson, no unofficial comments, just Miley. The fact is she doesn’t need any reasons, she has the right to do anything she wants, and no be judged the same as you and me. Also, deserves the respect of not having body image and tabloid crap being tossed out at her. Why are so many girls consumed with their figure? If a girl as young and naturally beautiful as Miley is being called names, what message does that send to our kids? Remember that the next time you see it on the news your choosing to watch, or the magazine you chose to buy. What message is being sent to your kids. The message I would want sent to my kids is said great by Miley in this video. Life is adventure, dreams, love and not apologies or living for someone else and their acceptance. Bream big, and let the Mojo flow…

Teen Relationships-How Much Does Chemistry Count?

Posted by Dreamer On October - 8 - 2009 Comments

Chemistry. What is it? It’s that… well, thing. That “I need to see this person again” impulse. Or that “We click” feeling. But what causes it? Does it need to happen naturally, or can you create it? Does it die over time, or are there tricks to keep the sparks flying? To explore these questions and more, we gathered together a group of real people and experts to delve into this titillating topic. Here’s what they had to say—see if you agree, and glean a few tricks on generating more chemistry in your own dating life.
How Much Does Chemistry Count?
The Subjects:
Joyce Catlett, MA, mental health specialist and author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships

David Givens, Ph.D, anthropologist and author of Love Signals

Sean and Alison, 36-year old newlyweds who met on Match.com and are now living in Rancho Cucamonga, CA with their blended familyYoung_Love_by_tollie

Michael, 35-year-old single man from Denver, Colorado

Pamela, 29-year-old single woman from Seattle, Washington

Q: So how do you define chemistry?

Alison: Chemistry is like cookie dough and vanilla ice cream: When it works, it works.

Sean: Chemistry is the igniter, the catalyst for the relationship.

Pamela: I think chemistry is an animal attraction between two people that is purely physical. The connection appeals to the five senses: The way someone looks, smells, tastes, the feel of his or her body, the sound of that person’s voice. The reaction to one’s chemical match is often excused or explained as overwhelming and uncontrollable. It’s the “throw-down factor.”

Michael: To me, chemistry is a connection, a bond or common feeling between two people. In my opinion, it starts very early in a friendship/relationship. Positive or negative chemistry is often one of the first feelings two people have about each other. It can be verbal or nonverbal, conscious or unconscious—yes, just like you were hit over the head with it!

Joyce Catlett: If you’re talking about chemistry as something that stimulates love or sexual attraction (or both), brain chemicals are definitely involved. In Why We Love, Dr. Helen Fisher found that levels of the chemical dopamine rise in a person who is infatuated, particularly as the relationship starts to take on more meaning.

David Givens: Chemistry is basically when the pleasure centers of the brain are engaged. The pleasure you get from chocolate, a martini or a rollercoaster is basically the same. The brain doesn’t differentiate. While chemistry isn’t everything, many of courtship’s most powerful signals are unheard, untouched, and unseen. Operating chiefly through unconscious channels, these invisible aromas, tastes, steroids, sterols, and hormones strongly shape our feelings about each other.

Q: How do you know you have chemistry with someone? Are there “symptoms”?

Alison: You know you have chemistry when it is easy. And the only goal you have for the day is to get back to that person.

Sean: I knew I had chemistry with Ali when I would spontaneously smile when I was with her or even just thinking about her.

Joyce Catlett: Symptoms? Rapid heartbeat. Shortness of breath. And sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger. As one researcher said, “Adrenaline makes the heart grow fonder.”

David Givens: You can tell when there is chemistry between people because the sympathetic nervous system gets aroused. Blood pressure goes up a little, the skin may flush, the face and ears will turn red and there might be a feeling of weakness in the knees. It’s that combination of basic psychological arousal combined with a feeling of pleasure.

Q: Can you create chemistry with someone you’re not initially feeling it with and, if so, how?

Michael: I think you can build chemistry, but personally, I like chemistry to just hit me. It’s much more fun that way. I enjoy suddenly realizing “Hey, I may be interested in her” and then WHAM! Makes me smile just thinking about it.

Pamela: Nope. It cannot be created. Unfortunately, it’s one of the few things in life you can’t learn and can’t teach. You, as a couple, either have it or you don’t.

Alison: Actually, I think chemistry can grow. Some people may be reserved at first, not showing their true selves. Over time, their personalities show and chemistry develops.

David Givens: Yes, I think you can create chemistry. Ordinary courtship goes over a period of weeks and months, and it builds up and adds up and eventually you get this kind of chemical bonding. Eye contact and discussing personal subjects can accelerate this chemical bond.

Joyce Catlett: Sometimes alcohol, which takes away inhibitions, could make it easier to be attracted to someone. But it’s an artificial “high,” only a temporary tension reliever. The chemistry you felt might very well disappear.

Q: Can you tell if you have chemistry with someone online or on the phone, or do you have to meet in person to know?

Ali: I think you can tell whether you have compatibility online. You can’t tell that you have chemistry until you meet the person. I got tingly when I first saw Sean, until then I wasn’t quite sure if I should even be going out on the date.

Sean: Actually, with Ali, I could tell there was a potential for chemistry online. I could tell based on her physical appearance, grammar, and tone in her bio, in emails, and then especially on the phone. However, I could definitely tell there was chemistry, and not just potential, on the first date.

Pamela: Online? Nope. Doesn’t stimulate any of the five senses. Phone? Sure. The sound of someone’s voice can be an incredible turn-on. Ever notice what suckers we are for people with Australian accents?

Joyce Catlett: I think chemistry would probably be less strong online or on the phone because research has shown that eye-to-eye contact is important in transmitting emotions. The exception would be for a shy person, who has trouble relaxing in social situations. Online contact would be less stressful for this person, and the more relaxed state would allow the chemistry to emerge.

Q: How long does it take to know if you have chemistry with someone? Five minutes? When you kiss? After getting intimate?

Joyce Catlett: It may take only five minutes. Simply spotting an interesting person at a cocktail party from a distance could start the chemistry perking.  Many people have also reported that the first kiss was how they knew they were falling in love.

Pamela: If the first kiss isn’t fireworks and hot flashes in certain regions of the body, then move on. Intimacy is the ultimate chemistry test. And that feeble excuse of “The first time is always awkward”? Not true!

Michael: Chemistry is the start or end of it all: Good chemistry equals move forward, bad chemistry equals keep looking. I don’t think the first kiss is the magic threshold, nor is the being intimate. In my opinion, you should already have chemistry at that point.

Q: Can you be “just friends” with someone and then get hit with a wave of chemistry that makes the relationship change direction?

Pamela: From experience, yes. It was a friendship for eight years, and now my desire for him is like a virus, forever coming back to haunt me when I least expect it. Keep in mind, as you grow and discover yourself, your “tastes” change. What appealed to you at twenty might not/probably won’t appeal to you at thirty.

Joyce Catlett: This often happens to coworkers who have been “just friends” but suddenly find themselves involved in an affair while working on an important project together. This type of interaction has been found to increase feelings of attraction.

David Givens: Yeah, that’s pretty common—where you’re around someone for years and never realized that you have a feeling of attachment for the person, and then something happens. It’s usually an event, or it can simply be that you two have been doing the same thing together for a while, which puts you on the same wavelength.
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Q: Are there times it might be prudent to ignore a “chemical” reaction? Like it might be just a “sex thing”?

Michael: For me and most guys I know, the “chemical reaction” should be ignored pretty often. Do you really want to be that guy—the Neanderthal who’s always checking people out and on the prowl? That reaction is there—hey, we’re guys! But you gotta keep your Neanderthal in check.

Joyce Catlett: There are times it might be prudent to ignore it. One has to do with the well-known cliché that opposites attract. People tend to have strong sexual attractions to people who have traits complementary to their own. In addition, both people may feel deficient in the specific trait that they admire in the other person. Later on, however, the very qualities that are so attractive in the initial phases of a romance may come to repel us. The quiet man may increasingly resent the fact that his gregarious wife never lets him get a word in edgewise, while she may start hating him for being so non-communicative.

Pamela: Unfortunately, I’m experiencing this situation right now. I believe his quote was, “We should stay away from each other. We are poison to each other.” Ouch! And yes, the sex was the best ever, for us both. He would back that—I’m not being delusional here. Unfortunately, when we aren’t making out, we’re usually fighting. Some people might call that passion. Others would call it ulcers waiting to happen.

Q: What’s more important to a successful relationship, chemistry or compatibility?

Alison: Chemistry is most important, by far. You can be compatible with a lot of people. Chemistry is the rarer of the two.

Michael: Chemistry is vital, but not as important as compatibility. Chemistry is the connection that you have with someone. Compatibility is a partnership of similar goals. I feel that if two people have chemistry and are not compatible, the relationship won’t last very long. If two people are compatible, they can find their chemistry.

Sean: If you don’t have chemistry, you’re just wasting your time. Compatibility cannot overcome a lack of chemistry.

Joyce Catlett: The combination of chemistry and compatibility—a mix of friendship, affection, love and sexual passion—is the ideal that most people are seeking. Obviously, it is also the most challenging to achieve over the long term.

Q: Does chemistry fade with time? Is there any way to bring it back?

David Givens: Usually after one to two years it starts to wane—the actual chemical levels in your body die down. There are ways to keep the thrill alive, though, like going on vacation with your partner to some exotic place or doing some kind of physically thrilling thing together. An increase in adrenaline levels can help people feel closer.

Michael: Chemistry can fade if you don’t pay attention to it. If communication is minimal due to responsibilities such as time-intensive careers, kids, money etc… life’s demands can contribute to couples misplacing their chemistry. But I think you can find it again.

Joyce Catlett: Chemistry doesn’t necessarily have to fade with time. What makes it fade is not familiarity, but the fact that many couples get into routine ways of being together and habitual ways of making love. Also many partners give up their independence and their old friends, and start to act out of obligation. They forget that they are two separate individuals and this detracts from the sexual attraction they initially felt. To remedy this, I think it’s important for couples to reminisce, during times of conflict, to the time when the sparks of passion first began to fly between them. It helps them reconnect to the feelings they enjoyed during the early phases of their relationship.

New York City-based freelancer Kimberly Dawn Neumann can tell if she has chemistry with a date in—oh, about 1.3 seconds.

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10 Fast Fat Burning Workouts

Posted by Dreamer On October - 8 - 2009 Comments

Your workout is a waste of time. Well, more accurately, it’s a time waster. One of the most common misconceptions about exercise is that more is better. If 20 minutes on the treadmill is good, 30 minutes must be better…right?

Article By Staff Writer, Shawn McKee at:eDiets.com

Wrong! To get the most out of your workouts, you need to increase intensity. I learned this firsthand from my friends at BGI Fitness, who practice the CrossFit style of training. The objective is to create well-rounded athletes through various training techniques and styles.

But you won’t find the gym rats that hover around the bench press and spend hours lifting weights there, because their strategy for functional fitness is simple: Minimal time, maximum output.

Most busy people don’t have time to spend hours in the gym every day, but almost everyone can find a few minutes per day to get stronger, healthier and leaner. When I walked in, I had no idea how difficult a 7-minute workout could be, but I found out.

When I got there, three women in their 30s or 40s — I know better than to ask — were pushing each other to finish their workouts. One of the most intriguing aspects of CrossFit training is that it is practiced in an encouraging competitive environment. If you finish first, you cheer everyone else on.

I consider myself in pretty decent shape and was ready for the challenge. Tommy Orr, BGI trainer and owner, had three people there so I could get the feel for the competitive camaraderie of CrossFit.

When Tommy showed me the Baseline Workout, I foolishly replied, “That’s it?”

Here’s the Baseline Workout we did:fat-burning_workouts_fast2

500 meter row*
40 air squats
30 sit ups
20 push ups
10 pull ups

*You can substitute running for rowing if you do not have access to a row machine.

After a brief warm up, the race was on! I started strong and quickly realized that the nonstop nature of the workout was more difficult than I anticipated. As I watched my competition move quickly from exercise to exercise, I realized maybe I wasn’t as fit as I thought I was.

“CrossFit protocol is based on the idea that a ‘fit’ individual is one who demonstrates proficiency in a wide range of physical tests,” says Tommy. “For the great majority of us who just want to improve our health and look better naked, a broader type of fitness is the way to do it.”

I finished last, with what Tommy called “a respectable 7:19.” The guy who finished first had a full three minutes to cheer me on, which I needed as I struggled to complete the challenge. I finished though, with my muscles shaking and twitching and lungs huffing for air. It was one of the toughest seven minutes I can remember.

The good part about the program is that it is easily measurable. I finished the baseline in 7:19, this week; next week I will try to improve that time. Much like a food journal was found to double weight loss, Tommy recommends keeping a workout log to track your progress and keep you motivated.

To make it even easier to get in shape, Tommy shared 10 fat-blasting workouts that are not only quick, but can be done without equipment and just about anywhere.

Learn more about “The Truth About Fat Loss

Book Review: ‘Hungry: A Mother and Daughter Fight Anorexia’ by Shiela and Lisa Himmel

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Hungry: A Mother and Daughter Fight Anorexia Book Cover ArtworkIn Times Of Trouble “Hungry” A Mother and Daughter Fight Anorexia. By: Shiela and Lisa Himmel.
Hungry: A Mother and Daughter Fight Anorexia

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Crystal Renn, Plus-Size Supermodel, On Having Her Cake and Eating It

Posted by Dreamer On October - 5 - 2009 Comments

I am sitting with one of the world’s most successful models in an Italian restaurant in New York, and the model is eating. First she demolishes the contents of the bread basket – hunks of chewy yeasty dough, the kind of crusts Manhattan dentists cite in lawsuits. Then she sets upon a prosciutto, polenta and smoked mozzarella starter that, by my estimate, must surely be 764 calories of creamy, fat-laden comfort food, followed by a main dish of red snapper. I’m all for skipping pudding but she’s a fan of the crème brûlée. She orders two, one for me, one for her. She gives the brittle topping a brisk whack with her spoon. “Isn’t that just the best bit?” she says.

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