Tis’ true, though it may be hard to believe.
The truth is girls can generally see you coming from a mile away, and they size you up instantly.
If you have trouble believing that, go to a bar, find an attractive group of girls, and sit back and watch OTHER guys approach girls.
Pay close attention to the girls reactions as they notice the men coming in for the approach.
Is it good, or is it bad?
(By the way, there IS a hint there, because the reaction is ALWAYS good or bad – it’s almost NEVER indifferent)
Ouch… talk about a harsh situation.
The girls act as the judge, jury, and executioner, and you haven’t even gotten a chance to SAY anything yet!
Doesn’t really seem fair, does it?
After all, how much can they really tell about you without talking to you?
The truth is that there may be a lot that they can’t tell about you, but the ONE thing they REALLY care about is written all over your face.
And that one thing is confidence.
Not only can women spot it from across the room, they have this uncanny sixth sense about it.
They can practically smell it, and when one of them senses it, she unconsciously and IMMEDIATELY communicates it to all of the other girls.
I sometimes call this ‘girl code’ and I demonstrate how this works in my Physical Confidence program.
(You can learn more about this at GuyGetsGirl.com )
By the way, I should mention that this mechanism women have for detecting confidence also works for detecting a LACK of confidence.
It works both ways, and this makes sense if you think about it.
Women want to detect a confident guy, because they are HOT for him.
On the other hand, girls want to detect a guy who LACKS confidence, because he has the potential to be creepy if he hits on them, or even to turn into a stalker if he somehow gets her number of finds out where she lives or works.
(This may sound harsh, but virtually ALL good looking women have had a stalker at some point in their lives, and they are almost ALWAYS guys who lack confidence with girls)
When they see a new guy they instantly and unconsciously sense his confidence, OR his LACK of confidence.
Like I said, this happens BEFORE they meet you or get a chance to talk to you.
It’s a lot like how us guys instantly and unconsciously put girls into the ‘Hot’ or ‘Not’ category when we first meet them.
And just like with our own hot or not assessment, I’m sorry to say there is NO ‘middle ground’ rating here.
From one moment to the next you either HAVE physical confidence, or you don’t.
The good news is that when you can radiate confidence, you stand out to girls and can actually become an object of THEIR desire.
Let me give you an example.
Let me tell you about The Kid.
I saw ‘the kid’ when I was at the gym a few years ago.
Now, when I go to the gym, I’m all about efficiency and multi-tasking. I mean, why just go workout my body when I can workout my banter and flirting and rapport too, and get some great dates in the process?
I have to say, it’s rare for me to see anyone else “multi- tasking” too.
But then I saw The Kid.
He was maybe 19 or 20 – an OK-looking kid.
Kinda. skinny, a little on the short side.
He was wearing some baggy shorts, a green t-shirt, and a beat-up baseball cap.
Nothing special about how he looked, or what he was wearing.
Except for one thing: he was wearing the slyest-sh*t-eating grin on his face.
While everyone else in the gym was busy sweating and grunting this kid was just relaxing,leaning against the wall next to the water fountain while a cute, cute, cute blonde in a sports bra and yoga pants kept leaning in, touching his arm, and then leaning back to laugh and play with her hair.
She couldn’t stop talking to him, and I swear, he didn’t say a SINGLE WORD.
The whole time, The Kid just leaned back, shot her that grin, and occasionally shrugged his shoulders and arched his eyebrows.
It was as if his body was saying to her “I know you want me, and I kinda like watching you work for it. Keep it up, and maybe you’ve got a shot with me, cutie.”
He wasn’t talking, but he was telling her everything that she needed to know about him.
You hear about some people having the gift of stillness, or some physical grace. It’s the kind of thing you can see in athletes, or dancers, or actors.
They are usually the ones who can stay calm and confident under pressure.
I know the idea of talking to this cutie in broad daylight is the kind of pressure that some guys want no part of. I even remember long ago before I learned the real secrets of attraction how nervous I would have been.
But The Kid didn’t flinch. It was like watching a great poker player bid up the pot and never show a single sign of nerves.
The truth is you can have all the clever lines and craft your words perfectly.
You can dress the part and go to the hippest places with the hippest people. But no matter what you do, the girl is always going to be watching you like a hawk to see if you show any sign of nerves.
She is not going to listen to your words. She IS going to listen to your body.
How are you standing? Do you shift from foot to foot?
Are you smiling? Do you look relaxed?
What about your arms and hands? Do you know what to do with them, or are they shaking, or just flailing about when you talk?
The Kid had his moves together. He knew that sometimes it’s what you don’t do that really matters. He wasn’t just acting cool. He was feeling it, showing it, and making it easy for her to see what kind of guy he really was.
And I just know that he learned all of this from someone else who really knew what he was doing.
No one is just born confident and charming and knowing just how to use his body to get girls to notice.
We all learn all the time from the people around us. We model the people we see.
Unfortunately, if your childhood was anything like mine, you spent your formative years surrounded by guys who were decidedly NOT confident.
If so, then you have to train yourself to be confident.
It sounds hard, or maybe even impossible, but the truth is confidence is a PHYSICAL trait, and like any physical skill, it CAN be learned.
See, I didn’t always look cool and confident.
I learned from the best, the real naturals, just how to stand, walk, talk, and use my body to communicate with women on the intimate, physical level that they really understand.
It’s not a secret anymore, and it’s not something you have to be born with. You can learn this, just like The Kid did.
Now you can spend 10 years like I did trying to unlock the secrets, or you can save a lot of time and a whole lot of frustration, and learn it all at once with my new Physical Confidence Take-Home Training Program. It’s all up to you… do you want it?
If so, then move with confidence to: GuyGetsGirl.com
Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide for men that reveals all the dirty tricks women play on guys each and every day. And, most importantly, how men can turn the tables on women by using special psychological techniques to attract and seduce them, anywhere, anytime. effortlessly.
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