I’m not sure when this will be posted on our sites. I have a friend working on some things for me, since this week’s a little hectic. I wrote this and then sat back and re-read the article. The funny thing is when reading through for mistakes I actually realized changes I need to make. Right now, my life is nowhere where I thought it would have been a year ago, it is better and more exciting. My career and dreams are larger, and coming true.
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I took advice a long time ago about putting myself out there more, so I did this with many sites and it has been great. However, it has allowed people to try and hinder my character by their sad comments. All this went away, then lately it has come back some and in a different non-anonymous way. I realized after reading this that there is nothing I can do to stop this. Honestly, they are very proud of the fact that no matter their actions I can do nothing. I have talked about tracing who is behind this, however, speaking with mentors and friends this would solve nothing. Because even if they were pin-pointed they have plenty of people who would back them up and justify their actions. They know this, they know they can do anything and the only one affected is my image and character.
To me it is not a game. I realized after this that with my career I am not bound to my location. Maybe this is the time to move completely away, and then those I am trying to help and create change for do not have to read vulgar attacks. I would be leaving my family and friends, however, since I was 16 I have been pretty much away and always enjoyed new experiences, plus I make friends pretty quick. When I see a torn down kid and I make an impact and they change their lives and smile and laugh, I realize my talents and gifts. My actions are in complete contradiction to the words written and that’s all that matters. If moving will create the peace I need then I would be selfish to stay because I can make a drastic difference, as I once did for those now attacking.
I was asked if I felt this would be running away. I laughed because to be honest, as cocky as it may sound, I’m a young good looking talented, smart, funny guy, who gets everything he wants in life while treating others with respect and compassion. Also, I’m gone a lot anyways I feel like a nomad half the time, and I’m not running only flying. Flinging words, well I’m past all that, I’d rather build a legacy.
Regardless of my decision, I hope you read this and realize you are worth all your hopes and dreams. So many times people give up because their surroundings affect their beliefs. They find comfort, and in comfort happiness, then it sinks in that this is just how life is. Life is PASSION, and it is exactly as you determine it to be.
Do you have some goals you want to achieve or dreams you want to fulfill? A useful tool in reaching the outcomes you desire is the creation of a vision, which can be short or long-term. I recommend writing down specifics to add clarity and focus.
What is a vision?
Here’s one definition by Thomas Leonard.
“It is a state or outcome that a person can see naturally and that inspires them. In other words, they are drawn, attracted, and pulled toward what they see. It’s exciting, and there is very little emotional cost. In fact, joy is often present. It’s not a reason for living.”
*Visions evolve and change over time reflecting who you are – your passions, values, needs, desires etc.*
Written as a story, single sentences, drawn as a picture, a collage… visions can take whatever shape is most meaningful to you. The point? Here’s a few….
1. How do you know what you want if you don’t define it?
2. How will you know when you get there if you don’t know where there is?
3. By putting things down on paper, makes what you think or say – REAL.
4. Saying and seeing what you truly want in your life opens you up to HAVING it!
5. Allows you to step back and view your life from a fresh or new perspective.
6. Creates hope and possibility.
7. Compels you to MOVE and get what you want!
Questions that evoke clarity in creating a vision:
* What do you truly want to experience or accomplish this year for yourself, personally and professionally?
* Where do you want to see your life a year from now?
* What do you want to change/add/eliminate in your life?
* If money was not an issue, what would you be doing?
* What brings you joy? Makes your heart sing?
* Describe your perfect life
” Imagination is everything” – Albert Einstein
I’m a believer in working with visioning and clear intentions for creating power-full outcomes. Imagine yourself on the 31st day of December looking back over this past year. What changes do you want to see? What challenges have you overcome? What are you most proud of having accomplished? Who have you become? Ready to make a 100-day commitment to get what you want?
Three steps to creating a powerful vision
1.First, create a clear vision/intention. It’s important to get a clear vision of the outcome you want. Be specific about what you really, really, want! Write about it and share it with supportive people. Give voice to your vision.
2. Second, create an inspiring connection. Take five minutes per day to open your heart and mind to focus on your vision feeling the joy of that vision already fulfilled. Isn’t it worth five minutes a day to get what you want? Set a regular time each day to envision the outcome you want and to feel the joy of it. Make this a daily ritual. Consciously revisit the intention of your vision throughout the day to keep the energy flowing.
3. The third step – take meaningful action. Vision and connection without action is just a great idea. Identify 5 actions that will move you closer to living your vision. As you complete each step, celebrate your wins and continue to add the next action steps that keep invested in the process of attracting and achieving the desired outcome.
* Remember to party along the way, be outrageous!
Note: Creating a vision, making a connection, and taking action will be dramatically affected if you are sabotaging your success!
Here’s an example of how self-sabotage can impact the success of your vision/intention:
1. Your vision is to have more personal time. You create a vision of what that would look like (reading more, having free time, an exercise regime, leaving work earlier, delegating more tasks, setting boundaries with others, etc).
2. Your self-defeating beliefs (what you think) may be – what your role is for others, needing to please people for approval and/or love, being self-ish etc.
3. Your self-defeating behaviors (what you do) may be – inability to say no, difficulty in setting and reinforcing boundaries, trying to take care of everybody, doing it ALL, etc.
To change a behavior, you must first change your attitude. That can be part of your vision – changing/replacing a self-defeating/limiting belief.
I shared this with a few people, although I want others to read it.
My wish for you, is that you succeed beyond your wildest imagination. That you find love in places that astound you. And that you have friends who call you “just because.” I dream that you go barefoot more than you wear shoes. That you play as hard as you work. And that you laugh more than you cry. I want you to set the bar high, but not too high. To reach for the stars, but with your toes on the ground. And to never, ever stop dreaming. But most of all, I wish for your happiness.
And these dreams of mine are what started it all.